Many will say that they want to achieve success, but they often times do not have a clear picture of what exactly that means. Of those who do have a picture, only a small fraction have an idea of how to attain success in a meaningful way- an achievement that actually brings the satisfaction that we all strive to attain. I believe the reason for this is because most of us have the procedures of achievement upside down. We go after the stuff or the experiences we want to have, which by and large exist outside of ourselves. We hope, yearn and pray that we’ll be fulfilled when we get what we have been fighting for. As I’m sure you’ve noticed, this plan has failed most of us. For those of us who are able to attain our goals, the victories are far less than truly satisfying, and certainly not enduring.
What if the reason that we have been chasing our tails is because we are setting the wrong goals? What if the answer to gaining enduring satisfaction is to re-calibrate our goal setting strategy- to transition from an outside-in mentality, to an inside-out reality? I believe that the path to enduring satisfaction is not to have bigger goals, or even better goals, but instead lies inside. Our goals should transition from the external or material, to the internal, emotional, and spiritual. I believe that we must get a clear picture on how we actually wanted to feel in our life, and then set our goals accordingly. Our external successes cannot satisfy the needs that no material gain ever could- despite our best efforts. Only a clear picture of how we want to feel can offer satisfaction, so don’t you think that identifying how we want to feel is absolutely foundational? With this kind of inner clarity, decisions are easier to make; You’ll know what to say no, and what to say yes to. You’ll be more optimistic, more open-hearted. It will be easier for you to remain balances and calm in the midst of a challenge. When you have been able to identify your inside out approach, life seems to be unlocked. As you take steps down the right path doors open, the right people appear just when you need them to, and positive coincidences are frequent. By contrast, when you're not on your path of pursuing your higher purpose it may seem as if you're walking through glue and nothing is working. This does not mean that you will not come across any obstacles in your journey. Your challenge is to determine if the obstacles that you encounter mean you need to examine your path and find another, or if the obstacles are meant to help you develop the qualities of persistence and patience. There are no easy answers knowing when to push ahead or to find another course of action, the wisdom- and answers to these tough question- comes from experience and self-awareness. The starting point for all of this, however, must originate from the inside. In re-calibrating your thinking from outside-in to inside-out you will be equipped to make the tough calls. You will not second guess your self as much. You will begin to taste the sweet satisfaction that we all yearn for. You will do much less working, and way more living.